Most people know my love for the Savage Love column, and podcast, but to be honest, it’s rare that I can relate to most of the people who write to his column, or call into his show. But today, he said something about how many people are guilty of employing euphemisms to hide the fact that a relationship is actually over.
I don’t think he’s describing the exact situation I’m in, I’m pretty confident about that, but of course, it did get me to thinking:
“When somebody says ‘I want my space’ what they’re saying is I want to put training wheels on this break up and ride it around for awhile and see how it feels.’ And then they’re going to take the training wheels off and you’ll be broken up. It’s basically transitioning out of the relationship with as little confrontation as possible.
What’s going to happen is three, six months later, you’re both going to acknowledge what actually happened six months ago, which is that you broke up.
I’ve known other people who have had long distance relationships and officially declared it off and got back together when circumstances brought them back together. But usually what happens is it’s a way of not acknowledge what is actually happening so there won’t be a big blow up, and you can still be friends. And keep calling each other and be buddies.”
I don’t think he’s describing the exact situation I’m in, I’m pretty confident about that, but of course, it did get me to thinking:
“When somebody says ‘I want my space’ what they’re saying is I want to put training wheels on this break up and ride it around for awhile and see how it feels.’ And then they’re going to take the training wheels off and you’ll be broken up. It’s basically transitioning out of the relationship with as little confrontation as possible.
What’s going to happen is three, six months later, you’re both going to acknowledge what actually happened six months ago, which is that you broke up.
I’ve known other people who have had long distance relationships and officially declared it off and got back together when circumstances brought them back together. But usually what happens is it’s a way of not acknowledge what is actually happening so there won’t be a big blow up, and you can still be friends. And keep calling each other and be buddies.”
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